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w that If I made those personal changes that she would change as well, even though Royce warned me that she still needed to get professional help. She never did.

Sorry you find yourself here, but if you read the sentence above, you have your answer.  At some point, the other person has to contribute to the health and repair of the marriage. One can get the ball rolling, but you can't push it all by yourself.

You gave her a big gift of forgiveness and reconciliation and look what she did with it. IF You somehow get her "back" again, and she will do this a third time, because she has no interest in change.

I'm really sorry, i know you want a fix like before, but what you need is a CHANGE and to take back control of your life.  Good luck in what ever direction you choose (but my advice is to divorce her butt - so i will refrain from comment)