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Newcomers / Re: Old timer back but plenty to work with
« on: November 27, 2015, 03:38:09 pm »
my friend, it sounds like you have married my first wife....i left her because my self esteem was in the toilet and i couldn't stand it any more. i would suggest counseling, but when we tried that, it turned into an indictment of what a bad person i was because of my childhood. but you may be able to find someone who can help you.
that said, there's nothing that you can do to make her change. i think that you need to decide how much is worth putting up with. draw a line in the sand. you don't sound happy, and neither does she. everything that you said is her issue, not yours. there's something going on with her that makes her lash out at you like that.
so, i think that you need to communicate how you feel about the constant criticism. you can't keep it bottled up. or if you've done that, seek professional help...lay it on the line that things have got to change. because in the end, you have to take care of yourself and your own emotional well being...
Db
that said, there's nothing that you can do to make her change. i think that you need to decide how much is worth putting up with. draw a line in the sand. you don't sound happy, and neither does she. everything that you said is her issue, not yours. there's something going on with her that makes her lash out at you like that.
so, i think that you need to communicate how you feel about the constant criticism. you can't keep it bottled up. or if you've done that, seek professional help...lay it on the line that things have got to change. because in the end, you have to take care of yourself and your own emotional well being...
Db